What Makes A Guy Want To Kiss You?

We had an amazing second date.

Started with a drink at a weird Irish pub. We couldn’t stop laughing about anything and everything.

Then he awkwardly held my hand as we walked to a live blues show. He looked so handsome in his blazer, with his messy hair.

I could tell he was getting nervous on our way back. He’s definitely going to kiss me, I though.

You can imagine how I felt when we finished the night with a sheepish half-hug. WTF??

I thought about that night a lot. Even though I didn’t keep seeing him, I kept wondering what makes men finally go in for the kiss.

It’s hard enough to know what to do when you kiss a guy. But first you have to actually be kissed before you even cross that bridge.

What Makes A Man Want To Kiss A Woman

The first (and most obvious) thing is attraction to the woman. A guy isn’t going to kiss you if he’s not into you that way.

But that doesn’t mean men go around kissing every woman they’re attracted to, thank god.

Now there are some guys who are damn near close to doing that. They don’t need a whole lot of encouragement. If they think you’re cute and they’re “feeling it” in the moment, they go for it.

If you’re with a guy who’s more shy and reserved, it’s trickier. A shy man will need it to be in the right setting, with all the right signals from you. 

The Right Setting

If we’re talking about a first kiss with a new guy, it needs to be somewhere private.

And by private I mean you need privacy. You can still have enough privacy if you’re out in public. You just need to be away from other people so he doesn’t feel like he’s being watched.

Still, for a shy man it’s better to be in a situation where it’s just the two of you.

But the right setting isn’t just about where you are. You need to spend some time together, too. 

If the two of you are on a date, don’t expect the kiss until at least later in the night. (Yes, night is better than daytime if you want him to kiss you.)

In the meantime you need to keep having fun. Flirting, having fun, building rapport and attraction. 

That’s why one of the absolute best settings is toward the end of your date. When you’re walking to the subway, or he’s walking to your door, or he’s about to leave your place. I know, it’s a cliche, but it really is the most natural time for a guy to make a move.

If you want him to kiss you, make sure there the two of you have a moment like this. Don’t call yourself an Uber if he’s offering you a ride. Don’t leave his place in a hurry, because that might be exactly when he was planning to go for it.

The Right Signals

Just being with him, having fun and showing interest will go a long way toward giving him the green light. But making him feel bold enough to kiss you might take a little more effort.

The best way to give him the message is to physically touch him earlier in the date.

That doesn’t mean you have to grope him, obviously. Even if that sounds fun

What you need to do are small things. Touch him when you laugh, hold his arm when the two of you are walking side by side, brush his shoulder with your hand when you walk by him.

If he has already touched you – holding your hand, for example – be into it. If he grabs your hand, show him you enjoy it by grasping a little tighter, or caress between his fingers ever so slightly.

You can go a little further with this if you’re already in a private setting, like watching a movie together. If you want him to kiss you, you can make it known by cuddling with him to turn up the heat while the movie’s still going.

Give Him The Opportunity

One more important bit of advice. You have to give him an opening.

Don’t stare at the ground, or have your head turned, or be drinking a coffee. 

If you are hugging at the end of the night, look up at him instead of burying your face in his chest.

Better yet, look up at him and smile. Don’t worry if you’re feeling kind of awkward – he is too. What matters is that you’re giving him clear signals that you want to be kissed.

If he’s a gentleman, he’ll want to know you’re okay with his advances. And if he feels the same way about you as you do toward him, he’ll finally go for the kiss.

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Here’s What To Do When A Guy Is Kissing Your Neck

Having a guy kiss your neck can be one of the hottest things ever. But you can end up turning down the heat if you don’t know what you’re doing. Or if you know what to do, you can use it as an opportunity to turn him on even more.

Chances are if he’s kissing your neck, he’s already highly attracted to you. Maybe he’s returning the favor from the amazing neck kiss you just gave him. In any case, if he is kissing your neck then he is FEELING it for you.

 The truth is there is no “right” thing to do when a guy is kissing your neck. You can try any (or all) of the suggestions below. There are so many good options! Just don’t do nothing and make things awkward

Run Your Fingers Through His Hair

You already love running your fingers through his hair, right? Well this is a great time to do it.

You’ll be sending him a message that you like what he’s doing, and he’ll know he should continue. In fact, you can actually control the way he kisses you by gently guiding his head where you want him to kiss. Or if you like what he’s doing already you can hold him a little more firmly.

Wrap Your Arms Around His Body

If the two of you are standing up you can put your arms around his shoulders. Or if you’re sitting or laying down next to each other, his torso might be more convenient.

The point here is to squeeze him closer to you. Doing this will create a deeper feeling of intimacy between the two of you.

Tilt Your Head To Give Him More Space To Kiss

One of the easiest ways to show him that you like what he’s doing is to move your head so more of your neck is exposed. Try tilting your chin upward to give him more real estate to kiss.

If he’s kissing your neck from behind this will be a little tricky. But in that case what you can do is brush your hair to the side so the back of your neck is exposed. That will encourage him to kiss the back of your neck, which is one of those secretly sensitive spots on your body!

Tease Him

Nothing will get him turned on more than arousing him with touch while he’s kissing your neck. You can build up his anticipation by gently touching different areas of his body. If you’re comfortable with it, you can tease him by almost touching him down there and then backing off at the last second. Or you can start to motion like you’re taking off his shirt or belt, but then stopping short of actually doing it.

Just a word of warning: this will drive him wild. 

Use Your Words

It’s not just about what you do physically when he’s giving you neck kisses. You can and should use sound to enhance the mood.

An easy way to do that: talk to him. It doesn’t have to be anything too special or fancy. Just say something simple like: “that feels nice” or, “I’m loving this!” 

You don’t even have to use words, really. If you’re truly enjoying being kissed on your neck, feel free to let off a sigh or a moan. That might say a lot more than any words

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8 Clear Signs He Is Making Love To You

Sometimes it’s just sex. Fun and satisfying, but nothing more than that.

There’s nothing wrong with that! But sometimes it’s… different. It’s something more.

Sometimes you’re not just having sex together. You’re expressing deep feelings you have for each other in the most intimate way possible.

That, my friends, is what making love is.

There’s a big difference between making love vs sex.

But you don’t always know when it’s love making. Most guys aren’t going to announce “this time I’m going to make love to you” beforehand.

No worries. This guide will help you figure out if he’s making love to you.

You’ll need to look for some of these sure signs to figure it out. Whether it’s a new guy or the man you’ve been with for years, these are things that almost always happen when you’re making love.

Foreplay Takes A Long Time

A lot of men think foreplay only includes the things you do immediately before intercourse. Things you’ll do when you’re already in bed with most of your clothes off.

But we all know that’s not always true. Sometimes seduction will begin hours before.

It can start with tantalizing conversation. Holding hands and light touching. Whispering sexy things in your ear when you’re out in public.

He will kiss you for a long time before he starts taking off your clothes. And he won’t seem like he’s in a hurry. In fact you might get the impression that he’s happy to just keep kissing you without going any further.

He Undresses You Slowly

Even as things get hotter and heading toward the bedroom, there’s no rush.

When he feels passionately about you, he’ll want to savor every moment.

If he wants to take off your shirt, he might unbutton it slowly and kiss your exposed skin as he’s doing it.

Or if you’re wearing a dress, he’ll pull it up ever-so-slightly to see and feel just a little more of your body.

Even if he’s seen your naked body many times already, he will treat the process like he’s uncovering a new mystery with every new inch of you he sees.

He Spends Time Appreciating Your Body

When a man wants to make love to you, he will take his time kissing and caressing all over your body. Not just your typical erogenous zones, but everywhere. Hips, backs of your legs, shoulders, neck… you name it.

He will do this as he is undressing you, and he’ll continue to do it when your clothes are off.

He might not say it, but you’ll see in his eyes that he can hardly believe how beautiful the woman in front of him is.

If you go see the Mona Lisa painting, you won’t just walk by and casually notice is, saying “that’s nice”. Instead, you’ll spend time studying every little detail and appreciating its intricacy and beauty.

It’s the same thing with making love. He will treat your entire body like an unbelievable thing that he’s lucky to see, touch, smell and taste.

He Takes You In With All His Senses

Sometimes sex is all about sight and feel. You see an attractive body, and you feel it during sex.

Making love is different. Your man will still want to appreciate how you look, and he will most certainly want to feel you. But he’ll also want to taste your lips, your tongue, your skin, your breasts, and down there.

He’ll want to take in your smell. He will want to hear your breathing, your quick heartbeat, your gasps and moans.

And he’ll appreciate all of it. It all adds to the beautiful experience of lovemaking.

He Does Things He Knows You Like

Remember that time you told him how you like the back of your knees kissed? He does. And he will be sure to do it.

Or maybe he knows you like some light teasing before beginning sex (who doesn’t?)… well, he will make sure to do that.

When a man has deep feelings for you he will pay careful attention when you tell him what you like in bed. And when he wants to make love to you he will try to give you every last thing you want. Because he knows you deserve it.

He Maintains Eye Contact

Not in a creepy way. Rather, he will gaze into your eyes while the two of you are connected, because he wants the connection to be even deeper.

They say your eyes are the window to your soul. When he is making love with you, that’s what he’s looking at when he stares into your eyes.

And when you’re finished he will keep looking at you. Because you’ve triggered deep feelings of connection in him. Even if he doesn’t say it, his loving gaze will give it away.

He Gets Emotional

I’m not saying your man is going to start crying during sex. But when he is making love with the woman he adores, he will inevitably feel strong emotions.

After all, that’s what the term means: you’re creating a strong emotional bond with each other within the act of sex.

Even men who don’t usually let their emotions show will give you some signs. There might be a slight quiver in his voice, or a distinct look in his eyes that shows all that he’s feeling.

He Doesn’t Want To Leave Your Side After

One of the surest signs that he’s making love to you and not just fucking you is the way he acts afterward.

Instead of getting up to put his clothes on, or get a snack, or take a nap… he just wants to be by your side and experience the moment longer. For him, time has stopped, and all that matters is the woman next to him.

When he loves you, it doesn’t stop after he expresses it physically. He will keep on loving you, and he’ll show it by touching you, talking to you, and giving you attention long after sex is over.

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How To Turn A Guy On While Cuddling

Everybody loves cuddling. It’s nice as it is. But you can always spice it up sometimes.

Here are some simple things you can do when you’re cuddling with your man to turn him on. Use them at your own risk

Press your body closer to his

You’re probably already close to him, but you can get closer. All you need to do is scoot toward him so your body is firmly pressed into his. If you’re spooning this should be easy.

If you’ve been spooning a while he will have gotten used to the feeling of your body next to him. So this way you can remind him you’re there

Put his hands where you want them

Take his hands and move his arms to wherever you want. You can wrap his arms around you more, or hold his hands, or put his hands on your waist. If you want to tease him here you can ever-so-slightly let him feel your chest.

Or you can take the less subtle route, if you know what I mean. Up to you.

Be revealing

Let him see just enough of you to be turned on. A bit of skin or a glimpse of what you’re wearing underneath. Ideally you want him just slightly distracted from whatever else you guys are doing.

Stroke his hair

Reach up and gently run your fingers through his hair. You can do it as few or as many times as you feel like. If you’re little spoon you’ll have to glance to make sure you don’t poke his eye while you’re reaching back.

Stroking his hair is an intimate way of touching him. It’s not the most erogenous area, but just the act of touching him will start arousing him.

Put your hand on his body

Instead of waiting for him to touch you, start touching him while the two of you are cuddled. You can build anticipation by gradually working your way along his body toward his favorite area(s).

Try going under his shirt with your hand. It will have him dying to see where you’re taking this.

Say something dirty

You don’t even need to touch him to turn him on while you’re cuddling – you can do it with your words! Men love it when their woman unexpectedly says something flirty or sexual to them.

If you’re not used to dirty talk, don’t sweat it too much. Just whisper whatever it is you’re thinking about right now. What do you like most about cuddling with him? What are you imagining him doing to you?

Unbutton or unbuckle

This is a sure way to tease him and let him know you want to escalate things. It’s pretty straightforward, too

Remember, men love being surprised. If you unexpectedly undo one of his shirt buttons, unbuckle his belt, even unbutton his pants… it will drive him absolutely crazy!

Wear perfume

Most men like the smell of good perfume. If you’re wearing a little bit he will be taking in your feminine smell all night and that will arouse him. Doubly so if you have a perfume you usually wear. A man will be turned on just by the smell of you on his clothes, so make sure he gets plenty while you’re cuddling.

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How To Touch A Man While Kissing Him

Have you been in this situation?

You lock lips with a guy and it’s amazing. At first.

But if you want to keep the mood right, you have to pay attention to more than just your kiss.

One of the biggest differences between a OK-but-forgettable kiss and a unforgettable-OMG kiss is where you put your hands.

Today I’m going to give you eight suggestions. Take em or leave em

It doesn’t matter if it’s a new guy that you’re seeing or he’s been your man for a long time. You probably need to step up your kissing game, my friend!

The good news is that it’s simple. Just your touch will be enough to drive him wild.

So let’s get started.

Touch his face

This one’s for more of a tender “I love you” type of kiss.

You can gently stroke his jaw and cheek with you hand. Or you can put both hands on each side of his face if you feel like it.

Lots of men like having their face touched while kissing. Watch out for his eyes though – you might have to peak for a second to see where your hand’s going.

Touch the back of his neck

This is a more sensitive area that you should definitely touch next time you’re kissing him. There are a lot of nerves just below his posterior hairline so a gentle touch will do.

The back of the neck is a good place to start. There are so many places you can go from there!

Grab his hands

This is another move on the loving/caring side. Holding hands can be very intimate – for guys too.

You can intertwine your fingers with his, or clasp hands. It’s a great way of connecting deeper during your kiss.

Tug on his shirt

Tugging on his shirt is a GREAT move if you’ve been kissing for a while. It’s teasing and playful. Also a nice way to let him know you want to go further

Put your hands on his thighs

If you’re sitting down, put one or both hands on his mid-thigh area. Another great way to tease him.

Be careful squeezing on them, though. A lot of people have ticklish spots above the knees and even the whole thigh. (You’ll know fast if he’s ticklish there.)

Pull him closer

This one’s a must. If you’re enjoying the kiss, lightly pull him closer to you either with your hands on his back or gently tugging his arm.

Pulling him closer non-verbally communicates that you’re enjoying the kiss. It can also be a signal that you want to go further, but not necessarily.

Run your hands along his body

Never underestimate how much men like to feel attractive. And a great way to make him feel attractive is to touch your favorite areas of his body – shoulders, chest, whatever.

Do it like you mean it! You want him to know how much you’re enjoying it too. That will make the kiss even hotter.

Or there…

Touching him down there is going to send his arousal skyward. It could send a pretty strong signal that you want to go further, but he might also enjoy just letting you do what you want.

End the confusion

The truth is there’s no right way to touch a man while kissing. Do what feels right in the moment! But be sure to try a few of these suggestions – you’ll thank me for it

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How To Arouse A Man With Touch [According To Anatomy]

Men have places on their bodies that are especially sensitive to touch. If you want to arouse him with your touch, pay special attention to these areas.

You already know the obvious sexual places you can touch a man. But that’s for when he’s already somewhat aroused. This is a guide to arousing your man with touch, and you don’t need to go down there to do it.

Let’s get started!

Pay Attention To Male Erogenous Zones

First things first, what are “erogenous zones”?

Erogenous zones are simply areas that are very sensitive to sexual stimulation.

You may remember the famous Friends episode when Monica was explaining that there are 7 different erogenous zones on a woman.

Well, men have them too, and there are more than 7.

The following are some of the best places to touch a guy to get him excited.

Bottom of his feet

The soles of his feet don’t have a high amount of nerves, but they’re still a very sensual place to touch him… if you do it right.

Touch him too softly on his bare feet and you’ll just be tickling him. Not sexy.

But a gentle massage will drive a lot of men wild. Eastern medicine has long understood that the feet are connected to other regions of the body, and stimulating the soles can trigger a deep relaxation response in him.

A foot massage is great no matter who you’re with. But when he’s getting a loving foot massage from you, it will not only help him relax but can also lead to quick arousal.

Gluteal fold (where thigh meets butt)

Here’s another sneaky one. Your man probably loves giving attention to your gluteal fold.
Why not return the favor?

This is a great spot to surprise him with a caress/kiss/lick. He’s probably not used to this, so prepare to become his favorite lover of all time.

The glute area itself doesn’t have a whole lot of nerves compared to the rest of the body. But it’s located very close to some of his most sensitive areas, and the anticipation you create by touching his gluteal fold will be out of control.

Underarms

You don’t need to go kissing his armpits, but the areas just below and immediately behind his armpits are great spots to touch and kiss.

Underarms are dense with nerve endings that connect throughout the body. The sensation of being lightly kissed here may give him uncontrollable shivers – in a good way.

Just be careful. Some men are just too sensitive in that area to handle much touching. You can try it out but if he starts reacting like he’s being tickled mercilessly – stop.

Back of knees

It’s not an erogenous zone for every man, but it’s highly arousing to some.

If your man does like you touching this spot you’ll know immediately. If it’s not his thing he will get bored of it quickly.

Neck

The neck is one of the most sensitive areas of a man to kiss. Done correctly, it can take him from 0 to 60 in no time.

Necks have a dense network of organized nerve endings that are part of the brachial plexus. The skin surface is quite sensitive to touch so you shouldn’t apply a lot of force in your kiss.

Neck kissing is great for all kinds of circumstances – casually kissing, foreplay, and during sex. Gentle neck touching is also arousing to men. Try stroking your fingertips lightly along the side of his neck and collarbone the next time you’re kissing.

Hands

We usually think of holding hands, or a caring kiss on the hand, but his hands can also be an erogenous area if you touch them that way.

The areas between the fingers – his interdigital folds – have lots of nerve endings. Stroking that area with your fingers or lightly kissing will be a nice and unexpected way to get him going.

Enjoy It Yourself

Nothing will be sexier to him than seeing that you enjoy touching him.

There are plenty of playful ways to show that you’re having fun touching his body. Do it in your own way.

If you’re really attracted to him you shouldn’t have to act here – just act the way you feel!

Remember: men love to feel attractive, too. They just don’t always express it.

And if he feels attractive he’ll be more comfortable and confident with you, which will in turn make everybody happy.

Make it obvious that you enjoy touching him. You’ll be glad you did.

Tease Him

This advice never fails.

When you’re touching him, get close to his genital area and then pull back. Do it over and over from different angles.

For example, if he’s laying on his back, rub your hands on his stomach all the way down to just above his pubic bone and then stop and come back. The anticipation will arouse him almost every time.

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Men Dating Taller Women - Success Tips

There are a lot of really tall women out there. And there are a lot of not-so-tall men who are attracted by them. But many feel that men dating taller women is an impossibility. Here are some tips for you shorter guys that can prove this wrong.

1. Don't make it an issue.

Maybe you've tried approaching taller women before only to be shunned or laughed at. Maybe you've never even tried it out of fear or intimidation. Here's one thing you need to understand. Most tall women are perfectly fine with the fact that they are tall and you should be too. If you feel intimidated, it's because you are creating that feeling yourself. Most tall women are not going to purposefully try to intimidate anyone. Their height is not something they will use against you. Like any women, tall women care about what kind of guy you are. Not how tall (or short) you are.

2. Whatever you do. . .do NOT use the cheesy tall-women joke lines.

Do you think that tall women have never heard them? that you are the first to show your "witty" self"? Do you want to make an impression? Don't even bring up the issue of height in any way, shape or form - hers or yours. Talk about something, anything, else.

3. Sadly, this seems to be one of the harder tasks for men dating taller women.

Tall women want to be cuddled too. Hold their hand, put your arms around them. Wine and dine them. Maybe because of their height, they appear to strong to need this kind of attention. But they do. Show them that you love them for their height without making an issue out of it.

4. Ditch the sexual anxiety that you won't measure up in the bedroom. When it comes to sex, everyone is the same height.

5. This is a pretty obvious one but it's easy to do and makes a difference.

 Stop slouching and always practice good posture. Standing up straight not only makes you look taller, it actually makes you act and feel more confident. Always stand up straight with your shoulders squared. Make the most of your physical frame.

6. When in doubt, look at the stars.

All of these famous on-the-short-side guys are dating (or married to) taller women: Michael J. Fox, Martin Sheen, Al Pacino, Tom Cruise, Emilio Estevez, Dustin Hoffman, and Prince, just to name a few.

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