How To Attract A Man Emotionally: 7 Ways To Reach His Heart

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How To Encourage Him To Make A Move: 3 Strategies

He likes you. It’s clear as day. So why won’t he just make a move already?

Maybe you’ve been flirting and texting but he won’t actually ask you out.

Or maybe you’ve already been out together a few times but he isn’t even trying to kiss you.

Ladies, I get it. As much as we hate the overly-aggressive men who won’t leave us alone, the passive men who won’t just make a move already can be even more frustrating!

If I told you there was “1 simple trick” to get a guy to make a move then I’d be lying. It’s not that simple.

Still, in my experience, there is a lot that a woman can do to encourage a man to step up and make a move. Whether that’s asking you out, pursuing you harder, or kissing you… chances are there are things you can do to give him that kick in the butt he needs.

Why He Won’t Make a Move

Put yourself in his shoes for a second. What are some reasons why a guy might not make a move?

Fear of rejection

Making any kind of move always comes with a chance of getting rejected. Rejection is one of the biggest fears people have. Including men. (Even confident men.)

Evolution has hard-wired this fear of rejection into our psychology. Early humans who were “rejected” from their tribes would face certain death on their own. So this deep fear has stuck with us into modern times, even though the stakes are lower.

Fear of inappropriate behavior

Making a romantic move on a woman comes with a new set of risks in today’s world. A lot of men are scared that an unwanted advance will cost them their job, or worse.

Overall it’s a good thing that our society is more sensitive to sexual harassment. But it has the unintended consequence of causing desirable men to behave too passively.

He doesn’t know what to do

A lot of men just don’t know what to do. They overthink it. They wait until they have the perfect date idea before they ask you out. Or they want to wait until the “perfect” time to kiss you… and then they wimp out when the time comes!

He wants you to make the move

Some men think it’s easier to just wait for the woman to make a move. And when that doesn’t happen they assume she isn’t interested and move on.

He doesn’t want to ruin your friendship

If this guy has been a friend of yours, he might be cautious about screwing up your friendship. Even if he likes you back.

It’s reasonable for him to worry about that. Once you show your feelings to somebody it can inevitably change your friendship. Maybe he isn’t sure what your response would be, and since he values your friendship he doesn’t want to risk it.

How To Get Him To Make A Move

Whatever his reasons are for holding off, let’s talk about how to get him to make a move finally!

You’ll notice that all of the reasons I listed for why he won’t go for it are due to fear. So your job is to reduce that fear. Lower the barrier that’s keeping him from taking that next step, and you’ll have a much better outcome.

Here are three effective ways to reduce his fear without sounding desperate, needy or awkward.

Flirt with him more

“But I’m already flirting with him!” you say. Well, maybe you think so. He might not see it that way.

A man who isn’t sure if you like him or not could convince himself that you’re not actually flirting. He might think that you’re just being nice. Or that you are this bubbly and outgoing with everybody.

If you want him to make a move but you sense that he’s a little scared, be more obvious with your intentions!

Try acknowledging the fact that you think he’s cute. You don’t have to outright say “you’re cute”. Instead you can work it into a conversation. For example, if he tells you about a nerdy hobby like building legos, say “aww, that makes you even cuter!”

Again: you might think you’re being obvious, but you probably aren’t. If you want to give him a signal that it’s okay to ask you out, give him that signal.

Use your body language

Body language is huge. Whether you’re trying to get him to ask you out, hold your hand, or you want him to kiss you.

Even oblivious men can pick up on body language cues. If you are giving him your full attention, you have an admiring gaze, and you do all the other subtle things that you do when you’re feeling attracted, he will notice.

Non-verbal cues make up the majority of our communication. Think of your body language as just another extension of flirting.

Don’t try to pretend like you’re not interested. If being around him makes you blush, or brush your hair back from your face excessively, then do it! He will recognize on a deep level that you are interested, even if you don’t state it with your words.

Give him your number

I know, I know. You want to know how to get him to make the first move.

Listen, some men just won’t. I know a lot of great guys who just don’t do that sort of thing. Usually because of the reasons I listed above.

So give him your number. You don’t need to explain yourself. And definitely don’t hide the reason you’re doing it. He will get the message loud and clear.

Plus, you’re still technically not making the first move. He will, when he calls you and asks you to get coffee with him.

And that, my friend, wouldn’t have happened if you didn’t give him that boost that he needed.

Don’t cheat yourself out of a great relationship just because the guy you want hasn’t made a move yet. Be patient and just a little more bold, and watch as magic happens.

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What Holding Hands Means To A Guy: 4 Possible Meanings

He held my hand! What does it mean?? 

I get that question a lot. It’s amazing how a simple romantic gesture can stir up so much confusion. Is it an intimate sign that he’s really into you? Or is it just something he does on a date?

Sometimes holding hands isn’t a big deal. You already know that. And you are here to find out how to tell when holding hands means more.

If you like a guy then it’s natural to analyze every little thing that happened on your date. So let’s put hand holding under the microscope and figure out what it means for you and your new love interest.

Here is a list of four possible hand-holding meanings. Chances are your situation falls into one or more of these categories.

Four Possible Hand-Holding Meanings

Holding hands with a guy can tell you a few different things. Some or all of the below meanings may apply to your situation.

1) He Really Likes You!

This one is for all my over-thinkers reading this. Relax! If a guy holds your hand when the two of you are hanging out it’s a pretty strong signal that he likes you.

You as a woman might hold hands with a girlfriend simply because you’re friends. Men don’t work this way. If they hold your hand then you can pretty much rule out the “friend zone”. He sees you as something more.

Holding hands doesn’t necessarily mean he is falling head-over-heels for you. But it could.

You need to consider it in context. Does he do other things that show he likes you? Is he excited to see you when you show up? Do you get that gut feeling he’s into you?

If your answer to those questions is yes, then holding hands probably is a sign he likes you.

2) He Is A Smooth Operator

Some men are strategic and calculating. They know how to meet, attract, and flirt with women. These men have lots of experience, which is why they seem to always know the right things to say and do when you’re together.

You might call these men “players”. But not all experienced men are dishonest players. Just because a guy has had lots of romantic experiences with different women doesn’t mean he’s going to seduce you and dump you.

You just have to be careful. Mr. Smooth Operator can give you the impression he is absolutely taken with you, when in reality he just knows what to do to make you feel attracted to him.

What does your gut tell you? Is he holding your hand out of genuine affection, or is it just a part of his seduction routine?

In a way, holding hands is a lot like sex. You can sense whether a man is genuinely making love, or if it’s just unattached physical pleasure.

3) He Is Shy

Holding hands for the first time can be nerve-wrecking. Especially for him, assuming he is the one who reached for your hand first.

But do you know what’s a lot more nerve-wrecking? Going in for the kiss. Or even just telling you he likes you.

Kissing someone for the first time… telling them you really like them… these are things that carry the risk of rejection. Taking a woman’s hand during a date is slightly less daunting.

Holding your hand is a way for a shy guy to express interest in you and show that he wants to get closer physically, without being too bold.

4) He Wants To Make The Relationship Physical

Holding hands is often the first meaningful physical contact in a relationship.

Hollywood loves to show us the magical first dates that end in a kiss. Yet most men prefer to start smaller.

When you hold hands for the first time you cross an invisible barrier. You signal to each other that you want to touch each other.

I’ve got news for you. If he shows that he wants to touch you by holding your hand, he most definitely wants to do more than that.

Maybe he is shy, or he is a gentleman, or is simply not willing to go further physically at this point. But you better believe that the guy who holds your hand is interested in touching and kissing you beyond that.

Interlocking Fingers: Does It Show Intimacy?

If hand-holding includes interlocking fingers then it usually shows additional intimacy.

That’s not to say that having your palms clasped at 45-degree angles doesn’t show intimacy. It’s just that interlocking your fingers is extra intimate. It is a symbolic (and literal) way of showing that the two of you are quite connected.

Holding hands this way is very intimate. When a guy holds your hand like that you can be sure that he wants to be with you even more.

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How Many Dates Before A Relationship? It’s Up To YOU

So you’re dating a new guy and you really like him. The next question always becomes: how many dates before you make it into a relationship?

A lot of people think that question is outdated in our modern hookup culture. In the age of Tinder, we’re told we need to “slow down”, “just have fun” and “don’t put a label on it”.

If you’re reading this, I already know that you want a relationship. Sure, casual dating can be fun. But once you fall for somebody you don’t want to be “casual” anymore.

A lot of women know they like a man within the first couple times of meeting him. Yet they keep dating him and maybe sleeping with him without any expectation of commitment.

Let me tell you: if you want to go from dating to relationship, this is a mistake.

So the question remains: at what point should you talk about an exclusive relationship?

From Dating To Relationship: Your Timeline

Throw out all the “rules” about when to make it official. It’s not 5 dates, or 1-3 months, or after you meet his family.

You need to shift your thinking away from what you’re supposed to do based on some arbitrary standard.

Instead, think in terms of what you want out of this situation.

If you’re ready for a relationship with him, then you can think about becoming official. Period.

I know a couple that became official by their second date. They both knew they liked each other and weren’t interested in seeing other people. Today they are happily married and raising a family.

The whole point in dating is to see if you like the person enough to continue spending time together. And from there, see if you want a relationship.

So once you’ve decided that he is relationship material, it’s time to act accordingly.

Dating-to-Relationship Stages

There are some typical stages you will go through as you progress from dating to relationship. Even if you move quickly, these stages always take place.

First, you two feel an initial spark of attraction. In instances where you end up in a relationship, that attraction tends to go beyond looks. There’s something about their demeanor and the way they come across that you find attractive on a deeper level. Maybe you can’t describe exactly what it is, but it’s there.

Next, you get to know more about them. You get the details of their life: what they do for work, what their hobbies are, what people are most important to them. This is done through simple conversation and spending time together. If their personal story fits with what you’re looking for, the you are probably already in the third stage.

The third stage is that you both feel a strong attraction to each other, and want to spend as much time as you can together. You want his company and you’re not particularly interested in dating anybody else.

At this point it is fair to say you want a relationship. Note that I said relationship instead of just being exclusive.

Relationship Vs. Being Exclusive

Being exclusive with a guy is fine, but it’s not necessarily a stage before a relationship.

You might want to talk about being exclusive if you are sleeping together and you have practical concerns about health risks. But if your goal is to be in a “boyfriend-girlfriend” situation, I say you skip the exclusive talk altogether and go straight for a relationship.

If you are already sleeping together and you tell him you want exclusivity (without mentioning a relationship) then he might interpret that as a sign that he doesn’t need to bother committing to you. He can still enjoy the physical part while still keeping his options open.

And if you’re not already sleeping together but you want the two of you to date each other exclusively, why not call that what it is: a relationship.

Remember: it doesn’t have to be a serious, I-hear-wedding-bells relationship just yet. You don’t need to be deeply in love to begin a new relationship.

I have seen way too many women fall into that dating-but-no-relationship zone with a guy without ever moving beyond it. It’s a no-man’s land that only leads to confusion and hurt.

Do yourself a favor and get clear on what you want. If that’s a relationship, then go for that. Don’t waste your time with anything else. You’ll be better off avoiding the men who don’t want to commit.

This brings us back to our original question: How many dates until you become his girlfriend?

When To Make It Official

If you’ve read this far then you can probably guess the answer. Make it official once you are ready.

With that said, you should give it a little bit of minimum time before you actually have the talk with him. It’s not realistic to expect him to want to become official by the end of your first date.

After first meeting you he will know if he feels attracted to you. And after spending a little more time with you he will have a better idea whether you as a person are what he’s looking for in a partner. But that should only take a small number of dates as long as your dates include a lot of talking and getting to know each other.

Once you have given him a chance to go through those two stages, he should be able to decide whether he wants a relationship. There is no rule-of-thumb here but it shouldn’t take him more than a month to know if he wants a relationship.

If he hasn’t at least hinted at wanting a relationship by this point, it’s up to you to make your expectations known.

Tell him that what you’re looking for is a relationship. Don’t feel weird or apologetic saying it. Just state it as a matter of fact.

If he isn’t on board with that yet, it’s up to you whether you want to continue seeing him. Maybe he just needs a little more time getting to know you. In that case, give him a little more time, but don’t let him enjoy all the “benefits” of a relationship without actually being in one.

If he keeps dragging his feet because he’s “not sure what he wants”, move on. I promise you’re better off without him. And you never know – he might chase after you because he wants a relationship after all.

Word Of Advice

The love of your life won’t need months of casual dating in order to decide he wants a relationship with you. If the man you’re interested in is being hot-and-cold and can’t decide what he wants, you’re probably better off without him. Even if you like him a lot.

Moving on from Mr. Uncommitted will open the door for the right man to enter your life. There are tons of amazing men who want a committed relationship. Let one of them have the privilege of being your man.

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How To Make Him Chase You (Without Ignoring Him)

Most of the advice out there about “how to make him chase you” goes something like this: Ignore him. Respond to his texts slowly. Don’t be too available.

Have you heard that before? Maybe you’ve even tried it yourself.

It’s better than being too needy or too eager. That’s for sure.

But you can easily screw things up this way. You might make him forget you altogether.

If you want to get a man to chase you, turning into a ghost will send confusing messages at best. Perhaps if the guy really likes you he could pick up on the signals and step up his pursuit.

It’s a risky move, though. Men tend to see these things in black-and-white. If you aren’t acting interested, he might just assume you’re not interested anymore. It’s not enough to just stop chasing him and see what happens.

You Have To Actually Let Him Chase You

Cutting off contact, ignoring texts, going into hiding… all those things will make it harder for him to chase you.

Most men aren’t going to pursue a woman if they don’t think they have at least a chance with her. For most guys, being the needy type is unbecoming and creepy. If a woman isn’t showing interest then they will quickly stop chasing her in order to save their dignity.

Plus, if he gets the sense that you’re ignoring him on purpose, it will have the opposite effect. If you’re ignoring him on purpose then you clearly are thinking of him. Ironically, you end up making yourself too available when this happens.

Becoming distant is obviously not the best way to get him to chase you. I recommend a strategy that is based on male psychological patterns.

What Makes A Man Chase A Woman

There are two basic things that need to happen to make a guy to chase you:

1. He has to think you’re attainable but not easy
2. He must feel attraction toward you

Let’s look at each of these a little closer.

Be Attainable…

We already went over this. If a guy thinks he has no shot, he won’t even try.

So it’s good to still be a little flirty. Indicate that you could be interested. He should get the sense that you might possibly be interested – but he can’t be entirely sure.

…But Don’t Be Easy

It goes without saying, but I’ll say it again: don’t be too easy if you want him to chase you.

A man who knows he has you no matter what will have little incentive to chase you. Why should he put in the effort?

Millions of years of evolution have hardwired men to want to win your affection. They are competitive and value achievements.

If you know how to make him feel those things, he will inevitably feel attracted to you. Even if you don’t have celebrity looks.

Increasing His Attraction

There are a lot of ways to make a man more attracted to you. Looks are only one part of the equation.

Practicing self care is another important piece. Have fun with your usual friends and hobbies. Make an impact at work. Eat healthy and exercise so you feel better mentally.

Those things will do a lot to make you more attractive in general. But what about this guy specifically? He’s the one we want chasing you.

The short answer is to be a challenge. Give him the impression that nothing is guaranteed.

He has to see that you are confident and content with your life without him. So he knows you could turn him down.

Doing this absolutely drives men wild. It’s not something they fully understand. These are the types of psychological hacks that can be your secret weapon in the dating world.

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3 Mind Hacks That Make You Irresistible To Men

Let’s face it. Men aren’t known for having a lot of vulnerability and emotional availability. This can be extremely frustrating but the good news is that once you understand how men’s brain’s work you can easily make yourself irresistible to most men by short circuiting what’s called the “hero instinct” in every man.

In this article you’re going to discover the 3 Mind hacks that short circuit men’s logical side of their brain and taps into a primal instinct every man has. Once you learn how to tap into this primal instinct you will make yourself irresistible to any man you desire.

The bad news is that if you don’t understand how this works you can easily become just another “notch” or “conquest” in your desired man’s belt.

1. Men Think They’re Logical They’re Not

Men like to pride themselves as being very logical and women as being very emotional. What most men don’t realize is that actually women are very logical they just don’t understand how to experience or talk about their emotions.

Once you can tap into the emotional side of a man’s brain you are bypassing their “logic” and “rational” thinking and now you are in control because let’s face it women understand emotions a lot better than most men.

2. Let Them Be The Hero While You Control The Story

Every man want’s to be a hero. It’s something that every little boy from the time they understand that they want to protect their mommy desires. It’s something that comes from millions of years of evolution that has gotten us this far.

Look, the fact is most women don’t need a hero. Let’s face it we take care of ourselves and often times keep the whole family together. But, remember we are not talking about logic here. When you do something that makes a man feel like they are protecting you they are psychologically programmed to associate the feeling of protecting a woman with sexual and emotional desire.

I’m not talking about just sexual attraction. It’s easy and cheap to make men sexually attracted to you. I’m talking about true sexual and emotional desire. The type of emotional desire where they will work 400 hundred miles just to be with you.

When was the last time a man made you his Goddess?

3. Be His Goddess Not His Conquest

Every man want’s to feel validated by having multiple sexual conquests, however what’s even more powerful is to become his Goddess. The difference between a Goddess and a conquest is a Goddess is worshipped and adored by her man and a conquest is just well…you use your imagination.

If you’re tired of just being another conquest then I have good news for you. When you trigger a man’s Goddess activator in a man’s brain you can instantly turn yourself from conquest to Goddess even if you’ve felt like your desired man’s 2nd or even 3rd choice.

The trick is activate a man’s dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, endorphin levels.  Each of these chemicals activates a different part of a man’s brain. Once you understand how to activate each of these chemicals you now have the ability to create brain chemical “love potions” for every man you desire.

Create Brain Chemical “Love Potions”

If you want to learn more about how to create brain chemical love potions then I recommend that you watch this free training on how you can easily learn how to become irresistible.

You may think that you have an unfair advantage after watching this training but remember other women are using this every day to get the man they desire. Don’t lose the man of your dreams because another women understands these secret strategies.

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3 Mind Hacks That Makes Your Irresistible To Men

Let’s face it. Men aren’t known for having a lot of vulnerability and emotional availability. This can be extremely frustrating but the good news is that once you understand how men’s brain’s work you can easily make yourself irresistible to most men by short circuiting what’s called the “hero instinct” in every man.

In this article you’re going to discover the 3 Mind hacks that short circuit men’s logical side of their brain and taps into a primal instinct every man has. Once you learn how to tap into this primal instinct you will make yourself irresistible to any man you desire.

The bad news is that if you don’t understand how this works you can easily become just another “notch” or “conquest” in your desired man’s belt.

1. Men Think They’re Logical They’re Not

Men like to pride themselves as being very logical and women as being very emotional. What most men don’t realize is that actually women are very logical they just don’t understand how to experience or talk about their emotions.

Once you can tap into the emotional side of a man’s brain you are bypassing their “logic” and “rational” thinking and now you are in control because let’s face it women understand emotions a lot better than most men.

2. Let Them Be The Hero While You Control The Story

Every man want’s to be a hero. It’s something that every little boy from the time they understand that they want to protect their mommy desires. It’s something that comes from millions of years of evolution that has gotten us this far.

Look, the fact is most women don’t need a hero. Let’s face it we take care of ourselves and often times keep the whole family together. But, remember we are not talking about logic here. When you do something that makes a man feel like they are protecting you they are psychologically programmed to associate the feeling of protecting a woman with sexual and emotional desire.

I’m not talking about just sexual attraction. It’s easy and cheap to make men sexually attracted to you. I’m talking about true sexual and emotional desire. The type of emotional desire where they will work 400 hundred miles just to be with you.

When was the last time a man made you his Goddess?

3. Be His Goddess Not His Conquest

Every man want’s to feel validated by having multiple sexual conquests, however what’s even more powerful is to become his Goddess. The difference between a Goddess and a conquest is a Goddess is worshipped and adored by her man and a conquest is just well…you use your imagination.

If you’re tired of just being another conquest then I have good news for you. When you trigger a man’s Goddess activator in a man’s brain you can instantly turn yourself from conquest to Goddess even if you’ve felt like your desired man’s 2nd or even 3rd choice.

The trick is activate a man’s dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, endorphin levels.  Each of these chemicals activates a different part of a man’s brain. Once you understand how to activate each of these chemicals you now have the ability to create brain chemical “love potions” for every man you desire.

Create Brain Chemical “Love Potions”

If you want to learn more about how to create brain chemical love potions then I recommend that you watch this free training on how you can easily learn how to become irresistible.

You may think that you have an unfair advantage after watching this training but remember other women are using this every day to get the man they desire. Don’t lose the man of your dreams because another women understands these secret strategies.

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